Love Yourself

 

Loving yourself is easier said then done for most of us in the world.  I have noticed even the most beautiful people have self esteem issues.  So it’s not all just for us not socially acceptable in looks (according to tv, magazines, etc.)  It’s hard to love yourself when the world shows you that you’re ugly. Or that you don’t belong.

I’ve had experience with School kids, Strangers on the streets, In stores, Online, So called Friends, and Even family being nasty to me or about me in some way.  Whether it’s recent or back when we were growing up.  I find it very hard to love myself.  As most do who have low self esteem we find a vice young in life to use as an outlet.  And we loose control on that vice, it makes us happy there  for we will do it over and over again just to feel that small moment of happiness.

A major one in the world is eating.  Sometimes once you figure out your vice and try to stop you find it very hard to.  I know i still can’t fight my vice no matter what type of outlet i try to use.  However this subject is not about that so i’m not going into it.

I know it’s hard, i deal with this all the time, try to look in the mirror and tell yourself you love yourself no matter what.  Find ways to show yourself this love.  Wear something you think makes you feel pretty or elegant, no matter what the occasion, even if you are just sitting at home doing nothing alone.  Don’t care what other people think, whether it’s not “in style” or “so last year” etc.  Just do what makes you happy and don’t care about what others say or think.

Again i know this is hard and i still struggle with this from a day to day basis, but i believe if you work at it hard and stay strong, eventually you’ll stop having the depressed days and all will be happy.  I find that i’m currently having 2 out of 7 days of the week being just depressed beyond belief, and the other 5 i’m happy and content.  This is a big step then what it was last year.  I was depressed and hated myself 5 days out of 7 of the week.

Hobbies and any type of stress reliever can assist you in this love.  if you find someone in your life being a negative x factor cut them out.  If they are family tell them what they are doing, alot of times family members won’t realize it or they think it’s what you need to hear.  just tell them the truth, be brutal if need be, tell them they have no right or responsibility in telling you “what you need to hear”  It’s your life and they can either except you and your ways or shut up and be supportive.

If they are supposed friends and you think they don’t realize it talk to them, if after the talk they are still doing it cut them out of your life.  They aren’t true friends.

If you are in a work environment like this, maybe it’s time to find a better job, obviously make sure you have a new one before dropping the old one ( i know some people who don’t realize this and just drop the job without a new one in sight).  No matter what the pay, it’s never worth staying in a bad work environment if it’s going to depress you truly.

Be happy.  Be you.

~ Anglis